About eighteen months ago, I wrote a blog post titled “Ditching the American Dream.” In this post I talked about how we were deciding whether or not we should sell (almost) everything we owned so we could move an hour outside of town to a sleepy little beach town and live the life we dreamed of. We ended up taking the road less traveled and have been happily living in our seaside town for over a year now.
When I wrote that post, I was a little nervous about our move and a I was a little nervous about the post. You never know how going against the status quo will be received.
It turns out, I had nothing to worry about. The move to Edisto Beach was one of the best choices we’ve made as a family and the post was well received. In fact, the encouraging comments really helped to make me brave.
That post and our move started a change in my thinking and in my living that has continued to evolved as we make more choices that are right for our family and most likely completely wrong for every other family I know.
My husband commutes two hours everyday in a $1500 car.
We decided to keep on renting for the foreseeable future instead of buying.
We are going to have more than the basic two children.
It takes 45 minutes to get to Walmart.
We travel more and have less than most.
I’m a stay at home mom and I run an online, career coaching business.
Despite how different our life looks, we are living our dream. Our life isn’t perfect. And sure, we have goals we still want to achieve, but even though we fall short when compared to the mainstream definition of success, we are living our dream life.
The more I thought about ditching the American dream and living the dream life, the more I realized that the key to all of this is recognizing the dream that is in your heart.
Your dream is yours for a reason and it is so unique to you that others may think it’s silly or even unwise.
Over at Flight Attendant Career Connection, I work with women all the time who are at a place in their life where they are able to do some soul searching and then go for the dream they find hidden deep inside.
Y’all that is really a cool thing. To first of all recognize your heart dream and second to go for it and live without regret.
So whether you are old or young, whether you are a career girl or a stay at home mama, I want you to know your dream.
And I want you to live it!
If you feel the same way, but you aren’t sure of your heart dream, here are a few questions to get the dream gears turning. You can just think about them, write them down in a journal, or if you are really brave, post your answer in the comments section. Good luck and get to dreaming.
What did you want to be when you were younger?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Would you rather have a big house with room for travelers or would you rather be the traveler?
What is your favorite quote?
Who is living a life you admire?
Who is living a life you would hate?
Finish this sentence: “If they would pay me to _______, I would never have a “job” again.”
I urge you to start dreaming and start picturing what your dream life looks like.
I want to see more and more women and families living the life they truly want to live and I am excited about the opportunity to share this message with a room full of dream chasing, motivated, and amazing women at the Unstoppable Woman’s Conference in Charleston, SC on April 25. I would love to see as many familiar faces in the audience as possible! If you would like to join me, here’s the link to purchase a ticket: http://www.theunstoppablewoman.org/2015-tour-tickets/charleston-sc/ And please used coupon code UNGER!