Marriage Secret “Work harder and hope for the best.”

Yesterday was the five year anniversary of our first date.  Jason says, “How do you keep all those dates in your head?”  I don’t do it on purpose.  I think it’s because we had such a world wind romance.  In three weeks, we will “celebrate” the five year anniversary of our engagement.  That’s right, three weeks between our first date and our engagement.  And no, we weren’t friends before.  Three weeks.  I wouldn’t necessarily recommend jumping in so quickly, but that’s how our love story is written. 

Of course, like any couple, we’ve had our ups and downs.  Our first eighteen months or so was a steady decline into*you know where*.  Ok, maybe that’s a little dramatic, but here’s a true story.

 When we had been married seven months, a co-worker asked me, “How do like being married?”

            “I don’t like it very much.”  I replied nonchalantly.

 “What are you going to do?” she asked and walked away.

When I think back on this exchange, I realize how lucky I am to be in a marriage where “What are you going to do?” is always answered with “Work harder and hope for the best.”   

Three weeks is certainly not long enough to get to know someone, it’s not even long enough to fall in love with someone, but for us it was long enough to “just know.”  My mom gave me some really good advice at the beginning of my engagement.  She told me to really feel and remember the moment when I knew Jason was the one.  She told me to plant a stake in the ground of my heart for that moment of knowing, because there would be a day I would need to find that feeling again.  And so I did.  And I’m glad I listened.      


Why I Love My Husband


  1. says

    I talked to Jason right after you guys got married, at Apple Blossom 1 year. I will say I’m happy you all have worked hard and made it work. The happiest marriages are hard work, but well worth it. Too many of the people I went to High School with are on their second marriages,and don’t get me wrong I don’t know the circumstances I know that its sad. So good for you all, I truly believe the key to marriage is having a Christian marriage and I can see that’s how you all are living your lives. I’m excited for Ty, the world is at his fingertips with Christian parents to guide him.

  2. says

    So true. It’s happened to me on some of those not so good days. I’ll ask Kragh what he wants me to do. Same answer-keep trying, find a way through, and it always happens. Three and a half years later, I’m so grateful to be married to him. I remember the “I knew” moment. I think we all need to remember them more. Perhaps I’ll write it somewhere and keep it close by. Love your posts as always! Inspiring and I relate to them so much. <3

  3. says

    I’m so glad you listened too! And I’ll be so happy when working on your marriage doesn’t actually feel like work. There’s a quote I love, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” I like to amend that a bit, “Choose a man you love, and make an awesome marriage your choice, and it’ll never feel like work again.” Okay, I just made that up but I really like that :). Thanks for linking up, Abbie!

  4. Mai Bateson says

    Hi Abbie! This is Mai at the Happy Wives Club and Fawn wanted to make sure you saw the note that our Thursday link up party has now moved to Marriage Mondays – beginning today. We want to get all our favorite married bloggers linking up every Monday so we hope you’ll join us.

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